Discovering yourself: Who am I

More often then not, we let other people define ourselves. Before we are able to form our own idea of who we are, we are told. This is why it it is so important to define yourself in order to achieve the life you want.

Today’s exercise to help you discover your true authentic self is to fill in the blank: I am _______

Write down, without consciously thinking, what you are. Are you a lawyer, a mom, a student, a friend, tired of life, bored, interested, ambitious etc. Look at these words and decide, do these words/labels correspond to the life you want to live, to the goals you wish to achieve?

 

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Prioritising your goals

One of the issues I face regularly when it comes to pursuing my goals is the manner in which they can clash. This happens on a regular basis for me.

To explain: As described in a previous post, I have the goal of getting a fit and healthy body. Great goal. However, I also have the goal of having more fun. One of my action steps to the broad umbrella goal of ‘have more fun’ is to socialise four times a week. However, most people socialise by getting food or getting drinks together etc.

This is where the clash occurs.

In order to get a great body, I have to commit to a fairly strict nutrition and exercise routine. This goal is compromised by my other goal to have fun which involves eating out with friends, going to the pub for pints etc.

Now, before I get to the essence of this article, I want to note one thing, socialising does not have to mean your routine goes completely out of the window. Make healthy choices when eating lunch/dinner out, go for coffee with friends instead of lunch/dinner, go for walks with friends and catchup instead of sitting in a cafe, have diet coke when you go out to the pub instead of alcohol, go to the movies instead of dinner. These are the things I do which allow me to still catch up with friends but it not affect my diet to a massive extent.

And now to the point of this article: prioritise your goals. Decide whether your health is more important than your social life. Decide where your family sits on your list. Decide where your career sits on the list. This list does not have to be static and can change.

Say for example, this time last year, my biggest priority was my education. I chose studying over going out with friends. I chose studying over going to the gym. I chose studying over eating healthy. Everything revolved around finishing my law degree as it was my priority.

Now,  my priorities have shifted. I have finished my degree and I am in my first graduate job. My studies are no longer a priority for me. Furthermore I have been shaped by experiences of the last year which have put health, relationships and having fun as priorities in my life. For this reason, I gym everyday, I stick to a nutrition plan, I keep in regular contact with my family and friends, I go out a lot, I try to travel, I have postponed further post-graduate studies for the meantime.

This shift can also occur for some people when they begin to have a family. Their attention shifts from their career to their partner and children. This shift can occur when someone has a health scare, they go from being a 70 hour a week workaholic, to cutting down their hours and spending more time on their health.

So in order to focus on what you want in your life and achieve your goals, make a list of your priorities and make sure your goals and time accurately reflect these priorities. This will enable you to achieve your goals and to assist you when you are faced with making a choice between two conflicting goals.

Let me know if you have any tricks or tips in the comment section below.

 

The importance of having clear vision

The most fundamental ingredient to success is having  clear vision. A crystal clear vision. Without this clear and precise vision, you are going nowhere. You could be the most capable, motivated, intelligent person in the world, but without a clear vision of what you want in life, you are never going to get to that point.

Think of it like this: the most experienced pilot with the best plane is not going to get to Mozambique without a map, he might make it to that area there eventually by flying around the world for a few days, but without the location or end point, he will not make it to the precise place he wants to be.

Whereas take the pilot who has the map, he knows where he is going, he knows that he is going to have to fly down along the east coast of Africa and therefore he will get to his location quickly and easily.

Once you know exactly what you want out of life, you can then map out a path from Point A (where you are) to Point B (where you want to be).

For example: I want to have a great body like the below. tumblr_n42iakaiVt1s1x0cvo1_540.jpg

This is my  vision. It is clear. And having a clear vision allows me to make a plan in order to get from point A (my current body shape) to point B (my vision). I know to get this body, I have to go to the gym, I have to eat healthily, I have to make sure I get enough sleep etc. These are my action steps in order to achieve the vision I have.

The take-away of this post is that without a crystal clear vision, you will never get where you want to be. As the above quote says: Decide what you want (your vision). Write it down. Make a plan. And work on it every single day.